So, the title of this blog post either got you excited or struck fear into your soul…..If the latter, you’re probably a guy, and if the former, you’re more than likely a girl. BUT, this post is for EVERYONE. And I’m about to debunk the LIST.
In a Christian arena full of hormonal teenagers, what is one of the most buzzed about topics of this generation? “The List”. I’m not sure when this started, or really, why it started in the first place, but what I want to know so badly, is why it caught on so quickly…And why in the world did it get so….So… Necessary?
Not familiar with the list? It goes something like this:
- Wise with money
- Great with kids
- Still a virgin
- Loves God
- Sense of humor
And the list goes on and on and 0n…..
Now, I know what you are probably thinking…These “lists” are very key to praying and preparing for your future spouse, to plan out what you really need and have an answer when someone is interested in you. I get it! It’s totally legitimate. BUT, are the run-on lines needed to craft a Christ-centered marriage? If we don’t have a list, are we clueless as to how or what we’re looking for a mate? No. And here’s why:
I’ve come to the realization (after much pondering and thinking), that almost every single quality on these lists, can be made a whole lot more simple.
Pray that your future husband/wife will be Godly. That’s it. If someone is totally committed to the Kingdom, lives for nobody but God, and truly strives to be more and more like Jesus every day, I’m pretty sure that covers all the bases.
Now, like I said, making these lists and praying for certain character qualities is NOT bad thing, as a matter of fact, I have a list…And I strive to grow in each of the things I’m praying my husband will have.
But I honestly think it boils down to this: Don’t get obsessed with lists, but pray daily that your future spouse will become more and more like Christ.
That’s it! Pray for patience and kindness, but remember, it’s all about being Christ-LIKE, NOT perfect.